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When I say go, think of three positive qualities about yourself (kind, funny, smart, etc). Go!
If this took you longer than 20 seconds than you need to work on your self esteem. Confidence is key in picking up women. Confidence is not to be confused with cockiness. Be confident (perceive yourself as capable and worthy of achieving your goals). Don’t be cocky — don’t perceive yourself as better than everyone else with the belief that you must prove that.
Think about the best qualities that you possess. List them on a piece of a paper. Remember these qualities and try your best to live up to them.
Writing them down is important because it will help you make a mental note of these qualities and you will naturally want to live up to them. For example, if you would describe yourself as kind then you will try hard to be as kind as you can. People will see that you are kind and this quality will really shine through.
I know that I am creative, funny and a sweetheart.
When you can list three positive qualities about yourself just like that, you’re one step ahead of the pack. When on a date and a woman asks you to describe yourself, you wouldn’t stumble and try to improvise something on the spot and hope that you said the right thing when you’re on the toilet taking a dump. Think of it as mental preparation.
The next step in gaining more confidence is to realize that only your opinion is important to you. Learn to accept yourself regardless of what others say. If a girl turns you down, tell yourself that it’s not you. She’s a fucking lesbian, or she’s got her time of the month. It’s never your fault why a woman doesn’t like you and you must constantly tell yourself that. Accept you for you.
You ever dress up for a night out on the town and notice that you’re extra confident because of that? Try to attain that confidence every single day. Visualize yourself as confident even if you don’t feel like it. Fake it if you must. You will notice that if you force yourself to smile, you will become happier. This is proven scientifically (I have no idea how so don’t ask me, go look it up if you’re that interested). Here’s a reference regarding this matter.
Practice as much as you can. Try out little things on any woman, anywhere. When buying toilet paper at the market, talk to the cashier. Be genuine and ask, “how’s it going?” Listen intently and try to care. You might not care about what she says because she might have buck teeth but you’re using her as a confidence booster. Try to be comfortable with talking to her and holding a conversation. Be conscious of your facial expressions. Raise your eyebrows and show concern if she tells you that she’s had a really bad day. Frown if she says she’s tired and just wants to go home.
Your facial expressions show honesty, or lack thereof. Be confident in expressing yourself.
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