Posted by Marlon Reed in The first step to picking up a woman at a bar is knowing your territory.
One overlooked aspect when learning to pick up women is not realizing that there are certain situations where you DO NOT want to approach women. If you go out to a bar on a Friday or a Saturday, you will bump into groups of women who are just hanging out. This is not what you want if you’re new to picking up women at bars. Instead, when starting out, try going out to a bar on a Monday or a Tuesday. You are more likely to find women who are there by themselves.
So now you’re at a bar and want to pick up a woman. Sit yourself down and get a drink. Look around and get familiar with the territory. You don’t have to look like you’re looking for someone specific, just look relaxed and confident. If there is a woman at the bar with an open seat next to her, sit next to her. You don’t have to ask if the seat is available or not. It will make you come off as being nervous. It’s safe to to assume that women who sit at the bar by themselves want somebody to talk to. http://marlonreed.com
Spend a few minutes just getting relaxed. Now it’s time to initiate conversation. Here’s an example of a basic ice breaker:
Observe the drink she’s having and try to guess what it is. You can say something like:
What’s that? A Vodka Cran?
Here are examples of more ice breakers you can use to pick up women at a bar. Just keep in mind that your questions should remain open-ended. If she’s not having a drink (or having water for example), or you don’t know your gin from your tonic, ask her for her opinion on something.
The most important thing to keep in mind when picking up women at bars is to talk with your eyes. You must make eye contact.
Important tips:
Perfect your wink
Learn to smile with your eyes
Use your eyebrows to show interest
These might seem stupid, and without practice they will probably come off as so, but you should be able to communicate these signals in a subtle manner that won’t make you come off as a creep.
See my new post on post-ice-breaking. You’ve Started a Conversation, Now What?
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