Initiating conversation is a cock block for most people. The most important thing to keep in mind when initiating a conversation is to make sure you ask open ended questions. Yes or no questions will never work to get a conversation rolling.

Here are examples of what you should NOT use:

• Good party, right?

• Like the music?

• Can I buy you a drink?

Out of these (awful) ice breakers, ”Can I buy you a drink’ is, but it’s risky because it’s overused. All of these ice breakers are yes or no questions so they leave you on the receiving end and you will be forced to suffer through an awkward moment of silence.

Just remember: You must ask open ended questions. With that said, do not initiate small talk.

DO NOT USE THESE.

“What do you do?” This is not a good approach because people usually do not want to discuss work when they’re out.

“How is the weather?” Don’t even bother asking this one. The gorgeous girl you say this to will automatically label you “BORING!”

Don’t worry, I got what you need though.

Here are examples of conversation starters (AKA ice breakers) that I use. I’ve gotten many digits with these. It might seem surprising considering how simple and obvious some of these may sound.

How was your day?
Women love to talk about what they experienced especially with someone who cares. It is even better if you see a woman who looks a little upset or is overtly excited. They will tell you about how they feel if you use this question.

You look like you’re having fun!
This will make her smile. It makes for an interesting conversation starter because she will be enthusiastic to tell you about how she is feeling.

Damn this drink is bad. What are you drinking?
This one is good because it just seems like you want to talk to somebody (not because she is fuckable). It also allows the woman to give you her input (something women would love to do).

Another good approach is to ask women for advice. For example:

If you’re at Starbucks for example, you can ask a woman something like:

The white chocolate mocha or the espresso truffle?
This approach is really effective because most women want to be helpful and also want to express their opinions. Just replace the product/ingredient names with whatever store you happen to be in.

If you’re at a Macy’s and you see a hottie shopping, you can ask something like:

OK, my best friends birthday is this Friday and I know she loves handbags. I don’t know the first thing about buying a handbag, can you teach me what you know in the smallest amount of time.

Remember, no matter which question you ask just make sure it is an open ended question. Try to be as genuine as possible.

Use these ice breakers to initiate conversation and eventually this will just come naturally to you. Check out my article on 5 Effective Ways to Break the Ice for more tips on initating conversation with women.

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